2007
11.08

Not to say that I’m not a loyal friend, but I try to judge people by how they treat me rather than what’s going on with someone else. This doesn’t mean that I don’t listen to what my friends tell me about someone or any warnings that they have, but just telling me “he sucks” or “she’s a bitch” isn’t going to make me instantly dislike someone… and if I’m already friends with that person as well I’m not going to change my opinion or relationships just because someone else doesn’t like them.

Example 1:
you: John’s an asshole.
me: I know, but he’s also my friend so stfu.

I know he’s an asshole – it’s part of what makes him John. Actually people without opinions and balls to express them aren’t only boring, they tend to piss me off. I want to know what someone thinks and it’s great to not always have to ask for it. What’s better is knowing that you’re going to get the truth.

This isn’t the point though and I’m only using John as an example because … well it’s John, this is his site and everyone knows him, and he’s known for his ability to be a jerk, right? The point is that I can ignore what happens outside of my respective relationships with people and focus on what happens inside of them… as I believe we all should because really can’t we all be jerks to the ‘right’ people?

Amazingly this system has gotten me into trouble more than once. A few months ago it was because of a falling out between friends that I inadvertently got drug into, accused of taking sides when I wasn’t… and yeah. Not pretty.

Then when that blew over I had another thing between friends who didn’t get along bitching to me about the other… a little defending with some stfu was thrown at all sides but still that comes back to me. Not in a bad way, exactly, just… is it so bad to see both sides? Is it a bad thing to try to understand everyone and not get in the middle more?

All of this comes from a current situation… a friendship I’m having problems with. Just because x amount of people have problems with someone in one way doesn’t mean that’s how they are with me… but since this person hadn’t treated me the same and I thought I had an understanding of what went behind their actions it wasn’t a problem to me.

I didn’t expect anyone else to put up with the bullshit, but I wasn’t going to base my friendship on what everyone else thought right? Now that I’m starting to get the same kind of treatment that everyone else got I’m not getting a whole lot of sympathy. Understandable I guess, but at the same time I don’t think I was wrong in not judging this person by things that happened outside of our friendship… right?

Mmm. This had more of a point that was lost somewhere along the way.

  1. I’m not an asshole, and anyone that says otherwise can go fuck themselves with a barbed wire bat.

  2. Dra-muh!

  3. [quote comment=”20176″]I’m not an asshole, and anyone that says otherwise can go fuck themselves with a barbed wire bat.[/quote]

    You always seem so proud when I call you an asshole though. Is it because you know that I still adore you? haha

  4. Not you panda. Just in general. I helped someone find a phone today and someone else with a writing piece so :-P

  5. *sigh* John’s not an asshole. However I think we talked about this before. I loves my panda.

  6. I think I need to say I HAVE NO PROBLEM WITH JOHN! I’m teasingly using him as an example. That’s all.

    [quote comment=”20177″]Dra-muh![/quote]

    Actually no drama lol

    [quote comment=”20181″]*sigh* John’s not an asshole. However I think we talked about this before. I loves my panda.[/quote]

    lol No but he CAN be – and the fact that he often enjoys it… ya know?

    [quote comment=”20179″]Not you panda. Just in general. I helped someone find a phone today and someone else with a writing piece so :-P[/quote]

    How many people have you laughed at today though? =P

    Again though – THIS HAS NOTHING TO DO WITH JOHN!

  7. [quote comment=”20183″][/quote]
    You don’t say!
    [quote comment=”20182″]Again though – THIS HAS NOTHING TO DO WITH JOHN![/quote]
    Everything has to do with me. Everything

  8. [quote comment=”20184″][quote comment=”20183″][/quote]
    Everything has to do with me. Everything[/quote]
    LIES!

  9. You’re right about not wanting to make your decision on a friendship just because other people don’t like someone, until you start seeing it too. But it’s sad when so much drama happens.