2008
02.28

Over the years marriage has been completely bastardized. Does it even mean anything to anyone anymore?

I mean really, come on. People get married for the wrong reasons. Somewhere along the lines true love has been lost and it’s become more of a lust thing, sometimes with some “what you can give to me” thrown in – financial security and whatnot.

How many people actually get married because they truly love each other? How many people even really know what love is anymore? Really, I know some people who, in the course of a few years, have been “in love” with several different people. Sure you can love many people, but being completely “in love” with all of them?

No. You can’t go from losing the love of your life to moving in with someone else a month later… just for an example… and it’s that kind of impulsiveness that makes a lot of people rush to get married just to divorce after a couple years – if they make it that long – and what has lead to the downfall of marriage as a beautiful thing.

It’s really sad that some of the people who would marry for the right reasons are turned away from marriage in general. Marriage means nothing anymore, a lot like family, and that disgusts me. I say family means nothing because how much time does the ‘average’ family spend together anymore? With kids being shoved into all kinds of extracurricular activities and parents involved in their work and other shit, sit-down meals have even been thrown out the window.

I grew up with getting married and having a family that wasn’t completely fucked as a dream. There’ve been a lot of dreams I’ve had that have changed over the years, as well as having had a lot that I’ve had to just completely give up on. Finding that perfect person, getting married – that was always one that I refused to let go of, one of the most important to me, rivaling or even surpassing having a real home.

I just feel like I’m the only one left… and it’s near inexpressible how that saddens me.

  1. It’s just a new fad. Remember in the 90s when the fad then was suing your neighbor for letting their dog sit in the front yard. Marriage is just a new way of getting quick money; you bang in bed for a year or two, then go to court and battle each other to the death. She / he who has the more powerful lawyer walks away with a nice compensation and monthly child support for the child that doesn’t even exist.

    I think I need to get on this bandwagon. xD

  2. “How many people actually get married because they truly love each other? How many people even really know what love is anymore?” *raises hand* me! But you’re so right, these days, it’s meaning less and less, and that’s way sad. But don’t lose hope, hubby and I can’t be the only couple out there who still believes.

  3. “How many people actually get married because they truly love each other? How many people even really know what love is anymore?”

    My husband and I are one of those married couples who actually got married for love. My husband immigrated to the US to marry me and gave up everything of his life in Japan. Not only that, but the US Immigration process is seemingly designed to destroy the relationships of truly loving couples by forbidding non-US citizen from visiting the US while waiting for their Visa (for us it was 6 months without seeing eachother, but for others it is even longer). I’ll tell you what, you learn if love is real when you can’t see or touch the person you care about most for half a year.

    However, despite my marriage, I agree with you. I only know a handful of people who are married and truly in love (or were married and already divorced). It’s a sad trend that I hope will change.